January 24, 2014

vacation? what's that?

Last week I took the kids with me to Spokane, WA to visit my parents. They hadn't been to their house before and I wanted them to be able to spend some time with them. Luckily Matt was eager for some time to focus on work without the distraction of 3 kids running around. :) It was a good trip, the kids did a great job in the car. We got to my parents and they had a blast. They got to stay up later than usual, eat food they don't normally get to eat, play with toys, and be louder than normal. They got to spend time with their cousins, which they absolutely loved. The ride back was great as well, they got to watch 2 movies, listened to an audio book and eat snacks.

Me on the other hand...I was stressing about making sure they didn't get into things at my parents house, that they behaved, and that people would think I am a good parent. (When let's face it, does it really matter what other people think?) By the last night I was exhausted, and eager to be back at work. I missed my husband and the comfort of being at home.

It just goes to show that Dorothy was right, there is no place like home. :)

  
This is me with 9 weeks to go. Today is Moebius Syndrome Awareness Day, I have a nephew who has Moebius Syndrome, and purple is the color to show support!
Needless to say, today was a good day. I went to work, got lots done (even though I'll be working tonight), had pizza for dinner and watched a movie with the family. I even showed my support for my nephew Jake who has Moebius Syndrome!

To learn more about Moebius Syndrome you can go to: http://www.moebiussyndrome.com/

December 31, 2013

cold meals

Since taking the plunge into motherhood I have come to appreciate my own mom so much more. She raised 7 kids, I don't remember ever hearing her complain or grumble about how much time each child took or how little "me" time she got.

She selflessly made meals for 9 people, knowing that some of us wouldn't like it and would complain about it. She did laundry, cleaned the house, went grocery shopping, taught us, gave us baths and so much more. Somehow she still found the time to bake bread and cookies and other non essentials. Then after having some of her children marry and move out (I'm sure she celebrated a little bit) some of them moved back in, this time, with their own children. I have come back to my parents home after moving out, this has happened during times of great need and trial in my life. Never once during that time did my parents make me feel unwanted or unloved. All they wanted was for me to learn the lesson I needed to learn at that time, sometimes this took a while.

Sadly enough, I am not nearly as selfless as my mom. I grumble, sometimes I complain, I occasionally yell, and sometimes I wish I had a lot more "me" time. Many nights all I want is to eat a hot meal, without the kids constantly asking for something. All too often I take my frustrations with work or other things out on my family. Why do I do that? Why is it okay for me to yell at my kids because work didn't go as smoothly as I would have liked? Well, it's not. I am constantly reminded that I need to do better.

One thing I want to work on during 2014 is to strengthen my relationship with my kids and my husband. To be more patient and understanding with them. To not have unrealistic expectations for them. Along with that, I need to be more patient with myself. I am not perfect, nor will I ever be in this life. I make mistakes, my kids make mistakes, and that is okay. Now for the goal of eating a hot meal. :)

December 25, 2013

merry christmas from the veil family


I realize it is Christmas day today, and I'm just now writing my Christmas letter. At least it's not the day after Christmas. :)

Eva: Is a 4 year old bundle of energy. She loves to help any way that she can, especially in the kitchen. She loves to play dress up and be a princess, but she does not like having things in her hair and ends up pulling them out by dinner time. She likes to spend time with Daddy in the garage, swing on the play set, sing Primary songs and play with anything princess related. She loves going to Primary on Sundays and is looking forward to going to school like her older siblings. We're looking forward to teaching her the ABC's and helping her recognize the letters. :)

Emma: At 6 years old, she is too smart for her own good. She loves going to kindergarten and has an amazing memory for songs and rhymes. She comes home singing the songs they've learned for the different letters and colors. She is becoming more independent, but loves to spend time with the family. She is very inquisitive and is always asking questions. Emma also loves to sing Primary songs, usually when she's using the bathroom. We're going to be working on reading and sharing more. :)

Jack: He has had a lot of awesome things happen this year. He was baptized a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in August, started cub-scouts, made new friends at his new school and is looking forward to turning 9 in January. He is in the 3rd grade and excels at reading. He loves Pokemon and Ninjago. He tends to like to play by himself since his sisters are into princesses and dress-up. He likes to ride his bike, play outside and spend time with Daddy.

Matt: Has been amazingly busy with work. His company has really grown over the past 6 months. He is excited for the new year to hire new people and implement all the different processes and operations. In his spare time he likes to barbecue, work in the yard, exercise, and experiment in the kitchen. (He is actually a really good cook.)

Katie: Has also been amazingly busy with work. I am now 6 months pregnant, due on March 29th, 2014. I am excited and apprehensive. I am looking forward to the new year so that I can go through the mounds of baby stuff I have received from my sister. In what little spare time I have I like to read, crochet and eat chocolate. (I have to be pretty quick about the last one, if I'm too slow Matt eats it.) I have struggled this year with patience between work and home. There have been a lot of changes that have come my way this year, I'd like to think that I've handled them with grace. Matt and the kids have been so supportive and encouraging. The kids are very patient with me when I act less than loving towards them.

2014 will be a big year for us. We're looking forward to many things, including; a new addition to our family in March, purchasing a van (YAY!), big things happening with the business, Katie being at home more, being sealed as a family in the Portland Temple of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Adam Veil coming home from his mission in Bogota, Colombia and so much more. All of that will be happening in the first 6 months of the year. Somewhere in there we might slow down a little, but not often. We are a busy family who struggles with all the normal things. Above all though we love each other and have fun.

We share with each of you our belief in Jesus Christ as our Savior and Redeemer. Our knowledge that families can be together forever, that each of us can be saved through the Atonement of our elder brother, Jesus Christ. May you all draw closer to your family members and Christ at this time of year, and remember him at all times.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

December 8, 2013

10 lessons learned...from McDonalds?

Around 3 weeks ago I was sitting on the couch at church and overheard a young man say that he worked at Burger King as a "burger flipper". The man he was talking to said, "Well it's a job." I piped up and said, "There's nothing wrong with being a 'burger flipper', I worked at McDonald's for 5 years and loved it." The look I received wasn't very appreciative. :)

I've thought about that a lot since then. What, exactly, is so wrong with working at McDonald's or another fast food establishment? People look down on it because it's not a job that requires a degree, or the fact that they think "they hire anyone" or...well who knows.

I started working at McDonald's during my senior year of High School because I needed a way to pay for car insurance and gas. I thought I would work the year after I graduated and then go to school. Well, I was offered a management position and stuck with it. I became a shift manager, assistant manager, and finally store manager. I was able to go to 5 separate training classes that went over a multitude of subjects ranging from how to manage people to how to offer the best customer service.

I think everyone should experience a customer service related job at some point in their life, and here's why;

1. I learned how to work hard. I cleaned toilets, mopped floors, emptied garbage's, dealt with rude customers, cleaned up after their messy kids and many, many other things. 
2. I learned how to handle difficult situations. I had people swear at me because we charged $0.10 for extra sauce, people that threw their sandwiches at me because we had forgotten to take the pickles off, I had employees who showed up late and didn't want to work as hard as everyone else.
3. I learned to be respectful of others. I absolutely hated cleaning up after messy customers. I vowed after working at McDonald's that I would never make someone's job more difficult.
4. I learned that my job doesn't revolve around me. It is not my employer's job to work around my schedule. I receive my schedule from work and plan other things around that.
5. I learned that parent's need to cut the umbilical cord and let their teen's be responsible. Many times when I was a manager I would have to explain to a parent that I didn't employ them, I employ their child. I don't have to communicate with them or get their permission. Parent's should not make excuses for their children, especially once they hit their teens.
6. I learned to focus and get the job done. If I am at work, I am there to work. I'm not there to socialize or loaf around. If I wanted to do that, I wouldn't have a job.
7. I learned to take pride in what I accomplished. There is nothing wrong with looking at something you've done and being excited and wanting to share it with those close to you. This motivates and pushes people forward.
8. I learned to look for the positive. Everyone has difficulties. What matters is how we handle it. Sometimes we don't have any control over what happens to us, but what we do have control over is our attitude and how we respond to our situation. Me being negative because I ran into traffic on my way to work is not going to change that fact, nor is it going to help anyone else around me be in a good mood.
9. I learned that I have an impact. Whether it's on those around me or on my situation, I can make a difference.
10. I learned that there is more to life than a paycheck. I quit McDonald's because I had reached my highest potential there. I needed to leave to move forward personally. Sometimes we have to make difficult decisions to better ourselves.

I believe these lessons can be learned from any job, but especially a food service or a retail position. Those tend to get some of the best and worst customers.

So the next time someone says they work at McDonald's, or Burger King, or WalMart, don't make them feel bad about it.

November 19, 2013

a "universal truth" about motherhood?

I have talked to many mom's in my lifetime. One thing I've learned since I have become a mom to 3 beautiful, rowdy, crazy kids is that most mom's feel inadequate and that they could do more.

Almost always I hear, "You are so amazing to fill that role for them. You are making a difference in their lives." Or something along those lines. When I hear that I am thinking, "You didn't hear me this morning when I was frustrated because they weren't eating fast enough." or "When I yelled at Eva because she was crying while I did her hair." or possibly "I just hope I'm not causing more damage." I don't feel amazing...and I think that's okay. Yes I know that I did something that doesn't happen very often. I married a single dad of 3 kids, and guess what, we have them full time. I went from being single and having all the time in the world to waking up to get Jack to school, to spending a day doing laundry and cleaning house, to grocery shopping for 5 people instead of 1. I didn't do it to be amazing. I did it because I love their father, and then I grew to love them.

My point is that we all feel inadequate or lacking at some point. Instead of focusing on the negative, let us take a moment and remember the good we do.
1. I read the kids a bed time story...without losing my temper.
2. I tucked the girls into bed when I got home from work late.
3. We watched a movie together.
4. I apologized when I got upset, teaching them that everyone is wrong at some point.
5. We made cookies today.
6. I let Eva help me clean the house.

See what I mean? We spend so much time focusing on what we're not doing (this could be related to parenting, work, social, service...whatever) that we forget the good that we do. Lighten up! The world is not going to end because the laundry didn't get folded and put away the same day it was washed. (Which is good because I have had two loads of laundry sitting on my couch for a week.) It is okay for the floors to be dirty. And yes, it's okay for the kids to play in the dirt.

Since getting married earlier this year and filling the role of mom for Jack, Emma and Eva I have talked to my mom many times. She has shared with me that she felt inadequate all the time and wondered if she was doing okay as a mom. When she told me this I couldn't help but think, "My mom is amazing. How could she possibly have felt inadequate. She raised 7 kids almost single-handedly so my dad could work full time to support all of us. She made sure we got to school and had clean clothes and that we had food to eat. She used to judge mud pies that my younger brother and I would make." My point is that your kids won't remember the things you don't do. But they will remember when you stopped doing the dishes to give them a hug when they fell. They will remember when you let them make cookies with you, even though it took twice as long.

On that note...I'm going to make brownies. :)

October 30, 2013

holiday traditions

I can't believe how quickly the year has gone by. October is almost over and then before we know it, Christmas will be here and we'll be celebrating a new year. This is mine and Matt's first holiday season together. I at least, am excited to start our own traditions and rituals with our kids. Christmas is my favorite time of year, I love the songs, smells, food, having family around, the meaning, giving gifts...it's a wonderful time of year.

What are some of your families traditions for holidays throughout the year? New Years, 4th of July, Birthdays...you name it. I am waiting for your ideas. :)

October 29, 2013

when you wish upon a star

I mentioned in my last post that I have been reading more blogs on various topics. One of them I first noticed on Facebook, some of my friends kept liking his posts, and after reading a few of them I started following his page. He has written some amazing things about Stay-at-home Moms, Obamacare, Deadbeat Dads as well as other things. (Those are all titles he uses, you can find him at The Matt Walsh Blog)

The link below is his Happy Anniversary wish to his wife of two years. What I love about it is what he says at the end, that his wife has been completely supportive of him and encouraged him in his endeavors and dreams. Everyone needs this! Whether you're a man or a woman. My husband is starting a business, that is scary. There's no guarantee of a paycheck when you own your own business, sales fluctuate, the economy effects it like crazy, but I am not scared because I trust my husband, and I know that he is talented and hardworking and will do what it takes to support our family. I want to be supported, so why wouldn't my husband? my kids? my employees? my sibling and parents? No one wants to have their dreams shot down, no one wants to be told they can't do something.

Matt Walsh Blog

This post is for the dreamers; you can do it! Whatever IT is, you can do it. If you put your mind to it, you can do anything.
This post is also for the naysayers; you can do it! You can change, and reach for your dreams. You can learn to be supportive of others in their dreams.

October 26, 2013

moments that matter most

I've been reading a lot more blogs lately. Various themes and messages come from them, some of them rub me the wrong way while others I agree with 100%. These have started me thinking what exactly I'm aiming for with my blog. What is the purpose? Am I doing writing it as a journal - which is kind of what it's been for the last little while - or do I want it to have a bigger purpose?

I would love for someone to read my blog and think, "I am going through that right now!" or, "I never thought of it that way." or maybe, "Well I know I don't want to do what she does!" I think deep down I want to make an impact with my words. I think we all have that ambition, to change lives and help other people in some way.

As a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints I lead a somewhat sheltered life. Growing up I was not exposed to swear words (until I got to middle school), my parents rarely fought (that I remember), I had both parents present in the home and we had a fairly close family despite having 7 kids spanning 18 years, I had friends who were also members of the LDS church and who believed the same things, we did not watch rated R movies and didn't even have the internet until I was in middle school. Back then pornography was not a worry like it is now (you had to really look for it then) I didn't even know what marijuana smelled like until I was a senior in high school. Now that I have grown and experienced the world in some ways I see both the good and bad in my upbringing.

Don't get me wrong, this is not a "rail against my parents" type of post, I love and admire my parents and I have had conversations with them as to what I wish they would have done. I guess my point is that we experience things and then we learn from them. If we don't learn from them, then the whole experience was wasted. There is ALWAYS something to learn.

From my experiences I know what drugs and alcohol do to the body, and I know the signs of them, my kids will be able to get away with very little because of that. I have seen both sides, living in a very active LDS environment, and the complete opposite of living in a house where the occupants do drugs on a daily basis. I know that swearing has a spiritual impact on those that hear and say it, for this reason I will not tolerate my children using such language. I learned how to work as a child; whether it was through dishes, helping with dinner, vacuuming, or cooking; my parents made sure their kids contributed to the family. That is something I will pass down to my children. I learned respect, one time I talked back to my mom...well my dad heard, and I learned quickly that that type of behavior would not be tolerated.

The experiences I'm having now are harder. Saying your going to do something and actually doing it are two different things. Especially when it comes to raising kids and marriage. I think we all have a "picture-perfect" family in mind (at least I did). I will be honest and admit that my family does not fit what I had in mind when I was 16. That is okay, I have grown as a person and my idea of the "perfect" man is nowhere what it used to be. I have been blessed with a wonderful husband who cares for and provides for his family. He helps around the house, he cleans, sweeps, does laundry, goes shopping and anything else that needs done. Our kids are amazing; they are smart, funny, loving, forgiving, patient, helpful and so much else.

I guess I'd like to challenge whoever reads this to think about what they can learn from the day to day experiences they have. To look for the positive in whatever situation you're in. To be more loving and kind to those that we love, since that is usually who we are the harshest towards. The world is full of good people, we just need them as individuals to realize they are good people, and the impact that a kind word can have.

October 4, 2013

baby picture :)

One of my favorite pictures from the ultrasound. :)
Yesterday Matt and I had my first ultrasound. It was amazing! Instantly being able to see the baby, hear the heartbeat and learn my due date (since I wasn't sure.) The baby was moving around like crazy, but I would too if someone was poking me all over the place. I'm excited to be able to feel the movement in a few weeks.
Come to find out that I am 15 weeks along, a week longer than I had thought. My due date, according to the doctor's, is March 29th.

Now on to the rest of life...where to start though.
Last week I was in Park City, UT for a Manager's Conference for work. It was great, I learned a lot and got some great information to pass on to my team. My boss(es) are coming to visit my store in a week, that will be interesting. Christmas is coming, as it usually does at this time of year in retail. I spent my day today putting out and organizing Christmas product. We are getting ready for Ladies Night tomorrow night, which is a crazy night. We're trying to figure out how to fit all of the product we have received onto our sales floor and in our back room.
Matt's business is doing well. He has worked a lot on networking with local businesses. Not only businesses though, he's reached out to several County's in the area as well as various organizations. He is doing a great job and loves what he does. Sometimes a little too much, I occasionally remind him that I need attention too. :) He has been amazingly helpful around the house since I've gotten pregnant; laundry, dishes, dinner, vacuuming...he helps with it all.

The kids are doing well, all things considered. I am continually amazed at how resilient they are, with everything they have come up against in their short lives.
Jack enjoys school, he's so smart and sometimes has a hard time focusing because he knows it already. I'm trying to show him how fun reading can be, right now he's working on "Charlie and the Great Glass Elevator" by Roald Dahl. He likes it when I read to them, I'm encouraging them all (but him especially) to use their imaginations when I read.
Emma LOVES school. She cracks me up with the different things she says. The other day I dropped her off at school, she gave me a hug and said, "Bye Mom!" then looked at my stomach and said, "Bye baby!" I showed them the ultrasound pictures today, she was asking all sorts of questions...hopefully I didn't confuse or cause any damage. ;) I guess we'll know if her teacher sends a note home mentioning something...
Eva loves to be my shadow. She would follow me around all day if I let her. She is almost always happy. (I say almost because she gets frustrated...with things that seem little to me.) She LOVES to dance, I'll put on music and she will move her body in ways that I didn't know until I was a teenager. I have no idea where she learned it. It's kind of amusing.

All in all our little family is doing well. We have our struggles, our breakdowns, and our crazy moments...but we love each other. We laugh, pray, eat good food, play and get on each other's nerves.

October 2, 2013

baby bump

I know this isn't the best picture to show it, but I felt like it was EXTREMELY noticeable. We have our first ultrasound tomorrow, I'm very excited to hear the heartbeat. :)